Have you ever wondered how it is that some people can be exceptionally good at something, while the majority of folk seem to be fairly mediocre? Take professional sports people, for example – or better still, let’s take the elite of professional sports people – the handful who are exceptional – The Tiger Woods, Jessica Ennis and Michael Schumachers of this world, who stand out from their peers. just HOW do they do that? What separates them from the rest of us?
Luck? a gift? Natural talent? Could be. . . and more than this it is to do with their mindset – in their minds they ARE the best – totally and congruently. More to the point, wouldn’t it be great to get inside their heads and to find out exactly what sets them apart from the rest?
Of course, you need to learn the physical aspects of whatever skill you are learning, and with practice it’s possible to get to a high standard, but how do you get to that level of being exceptional? What is the difference that makes the difference?
It’s about belief, and values and about the ‘pictures’, feelings and self talk that goes on in your mind. Those people who are exceptional within their field will all have a very specific set of values and beliefs about their skill, and about performing that skill.
In NLP, we are able to discover these values and beliefs, and also the strategies that a person runs when performing a particular skill. This is what is known as Modelling. By asking very specific questions we can elicit this information – which is interesting, or course – but here’s the exciting bit – we are then able to install these beliefs, values and strategies in ourselves so that we then have exactly the same mindset as that expert regarding that skill, and subsequently are able to model and carry out that skill in a fraction of the time that it would take to ‘learn’ it in the traditional sense.
Imagine that! If you could learn a new skill REALLY well, in a very short space of time – how good would that be?
And this isn’t just limited to the world of sports. This can be applied to any context. Let’s say you have a colleague at work who does a particular job exceptionally well – something that is part of your job description too – perhaps closing deals, or making presentations. How would it be if you could model that person and install all their beliefs and strategies about that skill so that you could d it as well as they do? Or perhaps you want to learn a musical instrument – by getting inside the tutor’s mindset and understanding what they really believe about that musical instrument and what feelings they associate with it, you will pick up and develop that skill so much more quickly than simply learning how to play the notes.
Francesca Dicembre, Headgear Labs Ltd